Saints are hated by the world but they are also greatly loved by those who are close to them. Human friendship is a gift as long as it does not become an inordinate attachment. From
Catholic Exchange:
Our Lord Himself called the Apostles His friends, and He meant His
particular friends because “all things whatsoever I have heard of my
Father, I have made known to you.” This encouraged the saints —
even the most detached of them — to seek out kindred souls to give them
their confidence and their friendship. They were well aware that
although the Gospel bases perfection upon detachment of heart, it does
not therefore follow that we are forbidden to love anyone with an
affection stronger and more sensible than that which we are obliged to
entertain for all in general.
Indeed, a whole volume might be written on the friendships of the
saints — friendships that were, in the best sense of the word,
particular friendships. “There is not a man who has a heart more tender
and more open to friendship than mine or who feels more keenly than I do
the pain of separation from those I love.” This is St. Francis de
Sales’s description of himself; and we may be sure that it could be
applied to the majority of God’s great servants.
How delightful to find this in the autobiography of St. Thérèse of
the Infant Jesus: “When I entered Carmel, I found in the novitiate a
companion about eight years older than I was. In spite of the difference
of age, we became the closest friends; and to encourage an affection
that gave promise of fostering virtue, we were allowed to converse
together.”
The Mirror of Perfection tells us that when St. Francis was
dying, St. Clare also was very ill. “The Lady Clare, fearing she would
die before him, wept most bitterly and would not be comforted, for she
thought that she would not see before her departure her Comforter and
Master.” Now, this is a very human situation and very human language,
and we can appreciate both. This is exactly how great friends feel about
one another.
St. Teresa of Avila wrote in this very strain to her friend, Don
Francisco de Salcedo: “Please God you will live until I die; then I
shall ask God to summon you promptly, lest I should be without you in
Heaven.”
Like so many of the saints, St. Augustine had the power of winning
and attracting devoted followers. Perhaps no Father of the Church had so
many or such enthusiastic friends. And in the letters that passed
between them, we see how generously he responded to these affections.
For example, he addresses Nebridius as “My sweet friend,” and he writes
to St. Jerome, “O that it were possible to enjoy sweet and frequent
converse with you; if not by living with you at least by living near
you.”
St. Bernard thus laments the death of his friend Humbert of
Clairvaux: “Flow, flow, my tears, so eager to flow. He who prevented
your flowing is here no more. It is not he who is dead but I — I who now
live only to die. Why, oh why, have we loved and why have we lost one
another?”
We are told of St. Philip Neri that friendship was one of the few
innocent joys of life that he permitted himself; and certainly
Providence lavished friends upon him in spite of the fact that no man
ever tried the patience and virtue of his friends as did he.
Indeed, it seems to have been only necessary for people to come in
contact with these saints to love them. “It is a favor bestowed on me by
God,” wrote St. Teresa, “that my presence always gives pleasure to
others.” One of her earliest biographers, Ribera, said of her, “She was
and she looked so amiable that everybody loved her.”
Bl. Angela of Foligno had such a hold upon the affections of all who
knew her, that out of pity for their feelings, she concealed the
knowledge she had of her approaching death. Gallonio said of St. Philip
Neri, “He hid the secret of his approaching death, lest our hearts
should be crushed with sorrow.” (Read more.)
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